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Poll From: 10/02/2013

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Do you think teenagers should engage in serious relationships? Submitted By cheergirl, NC
Yes.
No.
If they want.
Depends on the individuals.
Depends on the ages.
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crazywoman1956
on 10/29/13
i do not have a pet.
crazywoman1956
on 10/29/13
i want to rest. i am tired.
MATTMANAZ
on 10/27/13
SURE
Angelsonfb
on 10/19/13
Life is about experiences and changes! I was a teenager once, Whew! what an experience and you will learn whether good or bad, but you learn.
silencebabyy
on 10/15/13
depends on the age and individuals.. i think probably 14 and up would be fine... ive heard of people whove dated since they were 14 and are still dating or even were lucky enough to get married... some may break up in between but then they still get back together.
AznGlo
on 10/12/13
People we now call "adolescents" used to rule the world before Christ was born. We live and we learn.
caligirl74
on 10/08/13
SirLeedleton and 2 others liked this  
I am one of those with a "high school sweetheart" story, but looking back, I wish I would have held off on such a serious relationship. We are still together 16+ yrs later, I just wish i would have invested more time in my girlfriends and other friendships rather than be 100% devoted to someone like a married woman. I encourage my daughters to spend more time making friends and worry about romance and being serious later on.
PokeSaladAndy
on 10/02/13
sam4128 liked this  
You can't stop love.
G0d10v3
on 10/05/13
uranovercomer liked this  
Love now for some teenagers, is not love for their partner, but for themselves. The Bible describes love a lot and very well. 1Corinthians 13. The whole chapter.
G0d10v3
on 10/05/13
uranovercomer and 1 others liked this  
A teenager should not consider entering a relationship if s/he is not ready (mature). It would not even hurt you and your spouse but also your children, (if you have any).

I advise teenagers not to date. Cause when they date, they are doing more than just going out and spending time with each other. They may kiss, have sex, or do things that only married couples should do. Dating only leads to heart-ache. It leaves a very long scare. I've witnessed this before. It's not fun for you later on.
StacyRenee09
on 10/02/13
swagcyn015 and 6 others liked this  
I voted No because even though teens will ,of course, 'date' and have sex, as an adult I can only look back on my own experiences (but mostly other's) as disastrous. I knew a girl who lost her virginity at 8 years old and I know a mother who is perfectly okay with her SIX year old wanting to have sex. The first one does not live a very good adult life now and I'm kind of afraid that the second is going to have a lot of problems in her future, especially since all the women in her family are known for having their first child at 15. Also, I fostered a teenage boy (for a short time) that 'made his way' around his sophomore class, getting two girls pregnant and having a few more 'false alarms'. Not to mention how many girl's lives revolve around boys and having a boyfriend or how many teenage suicides are ultimately caused by their 'true love' breaking up with them. But I've also known some very mature teenage couples that did re
SwaggietheCat
on 10/02/13
swagcyn015 and 8 others liked this  
A six year old wanting to have a sex? The only six year who would want to have sex has probably been abused and doesn't understand what it is because a six year shouldn't even know what sex is. As for this mother, you need to report her to the authorities if she is ok with her 6 yrs old wanting to have sex because there is something wrong going on there.
morimunda
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 3 others liked this  
That is horrifying. Some people are unfit to be parents & it saddens me when i read/hear about things like this. I knew what sex was by the time I was six & I did not want to engage in it. I saw it as something adults do & an amazing thing where children could come from. I know a lot of people will say my parents are awful but they made sure I knew what sex was from an early age. I knew about alcohol & drugs too. They also made sure I'd know what a pedophile could do to me if I went off with a random stranger. My parents had seen a lot of horrible things & well i know some people will think they "traumatized" me for life but they didn't & I'm glad they raised me the way that they did. During high school I was way ahead of the other kids in terms of maturity especially when it came to relationships.
Sake1521
on 10/02/13
animalgirl42 and 1 others liked this  
well apparently they teach sex ed in kindergarten now..which HORRIFIES me...I'm all for making sure kids know what's what and safe sex and all that...but KINDERGARTEN??? When I was in kindergarten boys still had cooties and my biggest concern was remembering a stuffed animal for show and tell. I want my kids to be kids for as long as they can. I dont want them to grow up that fast. I want them to enjoy the time they have as kids to play and learn and do what kids do. Adult things should start to concern you until your at least 12...then you can start doing sort of adult things, like staying home by yourself for short periods of time...maybe. Oh and social services wont do anything unless the child is actively being abuse which is a load of bull...but it's the truth, just an FYI.
LoveBeautyNGlam
on 10/02/13
morimunda liked this  
They don't teach sex ed in kindergarten in my township and I live in a very large, low income township in NJ. My daughter is in 4th grade and she has not had any school classes with information about sex. I am under the impression from other parent's in the district that this is the year they do have some sort of health class with puberty information, which if I remember correctly is 1 year earlier than I had when I was younger. (I am 32 years old.) I personally do not see a problem with this considering my daughter has already started showing signs of puberty at 9 yo (10 in feb.) where as when I was that age my friends and I did not show any of these signs until I was late in 6th-7th grade. (I personally was more late 7th grade lol) Of course I have already started discussing these changes at home but I still feel a school health education class, WITH parent permission, is a positive thing.
morimunda
on 10/02/13
Jayesper and 1 others liked this  
Also I assume the schools are doing that bc maybe they feel if they educate kids, they can make smarter decisions? I feel it's up to the family of the child to decide on that. Despite my upbringing, I'd be horrified if someone told my child about that stuff at such a young age. I'm their parent, it should should be their parents to do so if they chose.
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
It helps that they never EVER have any sort of sex ed anywhere before junior high without sending home permission slips.
morimunda
on 10/02/13
I know exactly where you are coming from but I feel it depends on the person. I know about sex, drugs, alcohol from a very young age because my parents didn't want me to find out through other people & more likely a bad experience what that all was. Even with all that I was a happy KID & I played & had an imagination even when one my friends ditched me at ten because she was into boys & wanted to start wearing makeup & I was "holding her back". As if we weren't children. :(
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
jcams and 2 others liked this  
I think my parents did good with these things. I'm asexual so I won't be having relations any time soon but I learned about sex when I was 6 from my school friends and moreso towards the end of primary when girls started getting periods. My mother and I are very open about these things and she's "okay" with me having sex as long as I talk to her first and use contraception. Of course she's not okay with it, I'm her baby. But she's not going to stop me or shelter me. And I also had my first beer with my parents and the first time I smoked marijauna was with my parents. People might think that's awful but they just wanted to make sure that I wasn't craving those experiences and have me start partying. They took the fun out of it in a way and I'm glad they did! I'd feel more safe having serious experiences like these with my parents rather than alone or with some scummy peers of mine anyways.
TentacleKisses
on 10/04/13
Lol I'll stick with weed, thanks. I'm not going to just start shooting up heroin.
LoveBeautyNGlam
on 10/02/13
TIP-- Don't use needles at all, just because you aren't sharing doesn't mean you should feel free to use. Addiction never goes away and there are many other issues to deal with if you are strong enough to stop.
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
Yes I'm 14, so I have a somewhat biased stance on this poll. Oh well. And yeah my depression started when I was 8/9 so around the time my parents were splitting up. From then on it's just gotten worse and worse and worse. Doesn't help that I'm lesbian. I kind of hate myself for it. But I can't really do anything about my attractive to women or how completely asexual I am.

My mother, especially now, is making sure I know how to behave at bars and things because it's not going to be long before I'm able to drink. She's constantly trying to make sure I know how to defend myself and to always keep an eye on my drink and things like that. My mother grew up in a pretty ghetto part of the bible belt so she's has a lot of encounters with drugs and I know that if I have any questions about that stuff I can go to her and talk about it. It's really comforting that I always have someone to turn to when it comes to these things that require
morimunda
on 10/02/13
Your mom has the stand as mine in that she's told me that if I'm going to do drugs & have sex, do so safely. Don't share needles, wear condoms, don't rely on the other person to always have one, etc. I'm speaking as if I'm still a teen but I'm twenty seven. I would've thought you were a mature 20 something but i saw you telling another SwagBucker you're a teen? You remind me of my friend, she's much younger than me but she's so mature. She was still a teen when we became friends. Oh and hey I'm asexual too. I'm really glad I didn't listen to people & force myself into dates & sex, etc. I'm happy in that regard. My parents instilled confidence & respect in me but I've suffered from Depression a large chuck of my life & tht really screws with you self worth at least in my case.
morimunda
on 10/02/13
It seems we've had a similar upbringing! I too first drank & became drunk with my family. They wanted me to be able to hold my own liquor because well unfortunately there are unsavory people who slip things into others drinks or an inexperienced drinker may get drunk & there are always those who would take advantage of that. :( I think if I didn't have such a hard time making friends (I didn't have many really, my friends were my sisters & brother most of my childhood) I would've found out about them through them but then my mom was always there telling me & showing me things. I was always "one step ahead" in that regard. My uncles were drug addicts & one of them passed away due to it so my mom's always hated them but she did educate me on them.
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
morimunda and 12 others liked this  
You need to understand that that 8 year old did not lose her virginity (virginity doesn't even exist) but instead she was raped. There's a difference.
G0d10v3
on 10/05/13
I'm sorry that you were rapped when you were young. I feel your pain. I was rapped when I was young too.
candy471855
on 10/05/13
No to young
Brnawtch57
on 10/03/13
swaguser14717242 liked this  
yes,if there mature
Merdol
on 10/03/13
swaguser14717242 and 2 others liked this  
I feel as some teenagers are more mature than some and can handle a relationship.
desireet
on 10/03/13
it depends on the age difference
h31559
on 10/03/13
This is the time when teenagers should be able to know what is right and wrong.They should concentrate in their studies and activities to build up their future.When they are confident enough they can make their decisions.They should not learn from their own mistakes.Will be better to understand and learn from the mistakes of others in the past.At this stage they should not involve themselves in serious relationships.Mature decisions are always good and long lasting.
mburke92
on 10/02/13
swaguser14717242 and 5 others liked this  
I'm surprised so many people said no though if I were to guess, many of those votes are probably from middle-aged people who still seem to think teenagers can't think for themselves. I mean... they're teenagers not 5 year olds. If their relationship becomes a serious one then so be it.
But in reality it all depends on the two individuals and both of their definitions of "serious relationship" so really in the end we can't decide this with a poll because it depends on so many different factors.
And I'm probably overthinking this so I'll just shut up now. Haha.
allonasmommy
on 10/02/13
nope Im young
mburke92
on 10/03/13
Nah I didn't think ALL the votes were from people who aren't young. It's just that I know a lot of older adults think teenagers are too young to think for themselves (and then the second they turn 17 or 18 they're all "where do you want to go to college what are you going to do with the rest of your life" etc. as if they suddenly aren't children anymore or something) which is why I said that. I mean, that's what I've seen/experienced anyway, it may not be true with other people.
I hope I didn't offend anyone sorry!!!
andiu
on 10/03/13
I think it is an important discussion for parents to have with their teenagers and a decision based upon maturity of the teenager.
andiu
on 10/03/13
As
chrisvinod987
on 10/03/13
no comments
darkfire7777
on 10/02/13
Westerner liked this  
hell no they needed to be in school learning an getting a education for there future
Batmantha
on 10/02/13
As you obviously did.
happypeople
on 10/02/13
Right.
sam4128
on 10/02/13
I met my boyfriend in 5th grade, I'm now 18 and I just graduated high school. I hope that he is the guy I am going to grow old with but you never know. So with that I think it can be serious up to an extent. If they really love you they can wait for that serious relationship.
Hailestrom
on 10/02/13
Chickadove liked this  
only as serious as anything else that should be allowed at that age
MCook43091
on 10/02/13
sammy0354 and 1 others liked this  
I think teens are going to do what they want whether its behind your back or in your face, so why not embrace it and keep an eye out, gain more control by being able to view it instead of being shut out and have them be sneaking around.
Anil987
on 10/02/13
hell or heaven
HollysJoy
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 3 others liked this  
I really believe if you are between 10 and 20 there are so many other things to be focused on! Why not wait until you know where you want to go in life then find someone who wants the same things? I also believe that dating is to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Wait, be kids, enjoy being a CHILD, its such a very short time. (teenagers have no perspective of time, for them "high school will never end")
kittey257
on 10/02/13
Teens are not a child, and will never seem themselves as one.
HollysJoy
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 liked this  
I for sure believe "children" should not be having sex. There are way to many complications emotionally and physically. They should not be worrying about those physical and emotional consequences. If there are parents who encourage their children to engage in sex they need to stop, just let your kids grow up!
kittey257
on 10/02/13
xoxduchessxox and 1 others liked this  
Not all teens are going to be all about school. For some teens, it would be better to do other things first and then go to school after their teen years. Society has a one-size-fits-all view of young people that terribly constricts certain individuals and is not good for teens overall.
LsBrilliance77
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 2 others liked this  
I think it depends on the individuals. Most boys are really not ready to tie a knot so tight. And, I think men should wait til they are 30 to get married. There are a few however, who are not interested in sex this, sex that. like society likes to throw in their faces. They value a one girl relationship. These men are far and few between but they are out there, even amongst the youngsters.
HollysJoy
on 10/02/13
I disagree with 30 but I do agree that the guys who "value" one girl relationships before the age of 19 or 20 are few and far between. Usually at that age they don't really think long term...
Racheltheunicorn
on 10/02/13
carolynk616 and 1 others liked this  
THIRTY? HAHAHAHA
Ilovesparky13
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 liked this  
I don't know why you find this funny. 30 is a reasonable age for some to get married.
LsBrilliance77
on 10/02/13
vlad1986 liked this  
I mean these young men are far and few between for a one girl relationship.
kittey257
on 10/02/13
siyue liked this  
I don't see the point in a non-serious relationship.
JennaJubilee
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 2 others liked this  
I wish my mother had kept me from dating. For real.
SuperDante
on 10/02/13
IT'S UP TO THEM!!!
Jowas
on 10/02/13
If they want
Tattoo87
on 10/02/13
Vangamer and 9 others liked this  
think of it this way, we wouldn't have those adorable high school sweet heart stories 20 years later if it wasn't for teens to begin with ;)
JennaJubilee
on 10/02/13
G0d10v3 liked this  
I have nothing good to say about any of my ex's! Good guys are hard to find here! I'm glad I found a keeper after years of dating. Makes me wish I had waited.
G0d10v3
on 10/05/13
Like: "Makes me wish I had waited." This is so true for some married adults.
I'm happy that your found your man.
corbinsmom85
on 10/02/13
Limemarita and 1 others liked this  
I know! I was in high school when I met my husband. He is older then I am(and graduated way before me), so when asked if he was dating anyone he would reply, "Yes, my high school sweetheart."
SetaAnnTalverky
on 10/02/13
Eamonthecowboy and 1 others liked this  
That is so true! And I am happy to say that I am hoping to be one of them! I've been out of High School for two years now and I have been dating my well now fiance since Freshmen year. <3
DonnaMK
on 10/02/13
SetaAnnTalverky and 1 others liked this  
A lasting relationship takes time and sacrifice. I think too many people any more are only willing to commit to being 50% of the relationship, but we all fall short at times. Aim for 100% all the time and hopefully between the two of you, there will always be a minimum 50% from both sides. If you truly love someone, you'll find they're worth it. :-) We've overcome illness, financial ruin, and more, and we're always making sure the other is going to make it through, too. What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger! We're tough as nails, tempered with love! :-D Wishing you the best!
SetaAnnTalverky
on 10/02/13
Thanks for words of advice and best wishes! I know there are trails ahead of us but I am sure we will make it through. (:
joaanne
on 10/02/13
its their choice!!
Makar69
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 2 others liked this  
Teenagers shouldn't engage in relationships period. Too much angst, rumors spread, people get pregnant, people get suicidal. Just... no. Wait until you're in the mid-20s at least, that's my rule.
Kittenese
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 6 others liked this  
I'm a teenager, and I don't think teens should have serious relationships. As I see it, the purpose of dating is to discover your future husband or wife. Marrying in your teens is way too early, so if that's the case, why would we be looking for our future spouse while in our teens? Just a thought.
jordansnyder
on 10/02/13
YoungRL and 2 others liked this  
No no no. The sole purpose of dating is not to just meet the one person you want to marry and then settle down forever. If that ends up happening-great, fine, whatever. That's pretty much what society wants you to think, because we have so many conservative ideals imbedded in our society that that's just what is expected of people. But that doesn't have to be the only result or intention of dating. There is nothing wrong with wanting to casually date around for any number of reasons that work for you; you could do it to want to experience new people, have different experiences to figure out if you even like being in a relationship, to have someone to do things with, even frankly for just the intimate aspect of it if that's what you're looking for. Either way, no matter what you're intention of dating is it's not like everything has to absolutely lead to marriage no matter what.
tayderz15
on 10/02/13
nicknick119 and 2 others liked this  
I'm a teenager, I have a fiance and an eight month old daughter, I think if you're mature enough than go for it.
jordansnyder
on 10/02/13
leogirl817 and 2 others liked this  
Honestly though just because you think you're mature enough doesn't mean that the situation is ideal. I'm sorry, but there is absolutely no way that your situation would be as good now as it would be if you had waited to have kids in at least 5 years or so. And this is coming from a person whose parents were 19 and 20 when I was born, so it's not like I'm just saying this. There is a HUGE difference between having a serious relationship as a teen and having a baby and fiancé. That's pretty irresponsible that you're bringing a child into the world when you're so young, and you really shouldn't be proud of glorifying teen pregnancy. I don't care what anyone says-there is no way having a baby so young is ideal or the best choice for a baby. Seriously, if you're a teenager that must mean that you're, what, 18 or 19? You realize that you legally must only have been an adult for a year or two, right? Children should not be having ch
LsBrilliance77
on 10/02/13
animalgirl42 liked this  
I agree with that, if you're mature enough, and if your spouse has had his fill of running around with this and that. Goodluck with your marriage it can work if you LISTEN to each other. That's very important. Having a baby actually helps a young girl mature early because the baby puts demands on your time ... so If your fiance is willing to support you GO FOR IT. BLESS YOU AND YOURS.
schezo
on 10/02/13
Depends on two factors

The person as well as the country. I know 30+ year olds who can't even commit in a relationship let alone raise their own kids.
kellyjr79
on 10/02/13
tfjparadise liked this  
when i think of a teen i think of someone under 18 kids do not need to be in a serious relationship Once they turn 18 they are considered an adult according to the law so after that we can only advise them
mcfmullen
on 10/02/13
jordansnyder liked this  
No, under the law, they can consent to "Serious relationships" at the age of 14. A teenager is a child from ages thirTEEN to nineTEEN. There is no dispute. It is the definition of the word. At 18, they are considered an adult in the criminal code.
LoveBeautyNGlam
on 10/02/13
I think what your definition of serious and my definition of serious are 2 different things.
G0d10v3
on 10/02/13
uranovercomer and 5 others liked this  
I believe, if the two teenagers are mature and they are ready to get marry, and that's their focus than they should go for it. If they are just in it for fun, than I'm against that. They'll just be hurting themselves if they are playing around.
jordansnyder
on 10/02/13
Sushia liked this  
Wow, what an antiquated and backwards way of thinking-not just that relationships should without certainty result and be with the intention of marriage, but also that they shouldn't be for 'fun'. That's ridiculous for so many different reasons.

Take my relationship for example-I'm 20 now, and I started dating my boyfriend a couple months before I turned 17. Of COURSE I entered that relationship with the intention of having a good time with him. That's crazy to think that teenagers would/should have any other intention. At this point now after being with him for 3 years I've realized that thing might eventually lead to marriage (key word eventually...at least 6-7 years from now) but that's asinine to expect me to have wanted that or to have made my mind up about that when we started dating. And hey, there would be nothing wrong with it if it had stayed as a fun thing and we had no intention to get married. Get your thinking out of the 5
Avecero
on 10/02/13
doggirl20 and 6 others liked this  
Teenagers have no business getting married and that is proven by the recorded divorce rates of young teens. Not to mention the effects it has on young children that become product of a broken home. It is sad and it greatly contributes to our diminishing society that we are faced with everyday here in America. What happened to kids being kids? Where are everybody's morals? Where is the dignity and self-respect?
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
morimunda liked this  
Part of this kind of sucks because even if I get in a serious relationship it will be with another girl and we won't be able to get married, so it's frustrating to see everyone thinking the only goal in their relationships should be marriage.
LoveBeautyNGlam
on 10/02/13
sammy0354 liked this  
There are currently 14 states were same sex marriage is legalized. There is no reason you can not get into a relationship with a woman with the goal of marriage, if that is what you both decide. Hopefully, by the time you find your future wifey and you are of legal age to even get married, that number is much, much larger than 14.
nicknick119
on 10/02/13
sammy0354 and 3 others liked this  
You do realize that in the 50s, when divorce was practically unheard of, nearly everyone was married by their early twenties, right? While I don't think they should get married in their teens, there is no reason that they should not be able to date long term. The bigger problem is the current view of sex where kids are practically expected to have sex by the age of 13.
SnapdragonT
on 10/02/13
pbjplzmom and 1 others liked this  
I started dating my husband about 2 months before I turned 19. I have been with him for 24 years. True I didn't marry him until I was 23 but I started dating him as a teenager and he was just out of his teens (21).
KatieKat
on 10/02/13
morimunda and 5 others liked this  
I was a 19 year old soldier when I married my husband. I think if I'm old enough to die for your freedom, I'm old enough to marry but maybe I just think that because I have shitty morals and no self respect... *eye roll*
rallydog
on 10/02/13
I think teenagers for the most part are too immature to handle the emotions of a serious relationship.Dating/friendships are better.
Racheltheunicorn
on 10/02/13
TentacleKisses liked this  
I vote if they want, it's their choice. You don't know any of these teens, you don't know how mature they are.
sweettg
on 10/02/13
Yes, My opinion Is NO... So called girls or guy shouldn't have relationship till 18yrs which can cause consequences on parents like us.. Well Im not a parent but ill think that ways, under years of 18 shouldn't have relationship at all Period... Yes kids need to be free and important of all focus on their studies like me lol yes I wait didn't have a relationship it right thing....
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
I like that you said "so called girls or guy", like all teens are lying about their genders.
animalgirl42
on 10/02/13
Racheltheunicorn and 1 others liked this  
I am a teenager and I have been with my first ever boyfriend for over a month now, and we've only kissed once and the most we do is hug, hold hands, and he kisses me on the cheek, and I feel like that is how it should be. I know plenty of people who spend all of their time making out against the lockers and talking about having sex and stuff like that, and it disgusts me. I feel like a serious relationship shouldn't require sex, or anything physical like that, but instead a strong emotional bond, like I have with my boyfriend. The best relationship is one that doesn't need to progress too quickly or make anyone uncomfortable, but for the two people to emotionally and spiritually bond by getting to know each other. <3
morimunda
on 10/02/13
animalgirl42 liked this  
I'm really happy for you & your guy. It's good you two are going at your own pace & getting to know each other better & not just jumping to sex bc others do so. Something like that is personal & is different for all couples.
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
animalgirl42 liked this  
Just do remember that sex can be an extremely emotional, loving, and caring thing. That's pretty cool that you're abstaining now. Just don't go on thinking sex is only something for immature people.
animalgirl42
on 10/02/13
of course :) I don't mean that at all, I just mean that it shouldn't be the top priority for a serious relationship. I think people should wait until they are married, or whenever they both truly feel ready to engage in sex, and though of course it is their personal decision, especially young teenagers should wait until they are fully able to consider the consequences. That's just my personal opinion though :)
Bebster
on 10/02/13
Racheltheunicorn liked this  
There's definitely a huge difference between 13 and 19. I think it's completely ridiculous to have a "serious relationship" when you can't even drive. But I think there are plenty of 19 year olds who are ready. I had just turned 20 when I started my first relationship, and we got married about a year later. We're about to celebrate our first anniversary.

But I also had a friend ask me to be his girlfriend when I was 18 and he was 21. I said no because he was immature and didn't know what he wanted to do with his life. When I started dating my husband we both had (and still have) steady jobs and he was well on his way to a PhD.
DrRat
on 10/02/13
Early marriage is a key predictor of divorce. Nearly half of all marriages in which the bride is 18 or under end in separation or divorce within 10 years. After the bride reaches age 25, her chances of being divorced or separated within 10 years falls to half of that.

The teen years are a great time to date - NOT to get serious! Yes, there are exceptions...but why take the chance? (And early marriage is also a great predictor of poverty, too!)
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
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To be completely honest with you, I think divorce and remarriage is an a-okay thing as long as they're civil about it. Look at my parents for example. They got married in their early twenties and a few years in to the marriage they fell out of love. If they had divorced at that time it probably wouldn't have ended so bitterly. But even after my father cheated and they both couldn't stand each other, they tried to make it work. But it was a very bad decision in the end. I think lying to yourself and each other just to try to salvage a relationship that no longer works is just silly and more than just the couple will get hurt.
LsBrilliance77
on 10/02/13
Follow this advice, LISTEN TO EACH OTHER. BELIEVE IN EACH OTHER.

AND DON'T LIE unless it's absolutely necessary to avoid a painful situation for your partner... and then, just tell half the truth, cause lying breaks the trust, which is hard to regain.
pbjplzmom
on 10/02/13
The girl isn't always the one hurt. 2 weeks ago my sons gf of 2 yrs decided she wants 2 sow her oats. She used 2 have talks what she hoped for the future..ending the relationship was a shock. Though both 18, we all saw a lifetime. He treated her like a queen (her words) & he respected her enough 2 not sleep with her. She turned 18, got a job (he already had one), given a car & turned into party girl. 180 turn from what she had been like.. wanting 2 stay home, watch movies, go for walks, visit parks, go fishing.. now wants 2 know where the next party is. While my son is heartbroken, if this is the life she wants, he doesn't realize it yet, but he is better off. I understand "teens" at this age like 2 hang out with friends, but 2 find the next place 2 drink & smoke. ...wonder when she will end up preggers since she also started "flirting" with every guy she comes across. Grateful it won't be his now. Will I discourage him to become serious again
mcfmullen
on 10/02/13
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"he respected her enough 2 not sleep with her". You make it sound like if he didn't respect her, he would have raped her. That phrase is disrespectful both to the girl and to your son. You ought to have said that he respected their future together enough and remain abstinent alongside her.
pbjplzmom
on 10/02/13
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For one, I was limited in the amount of words I could type and had to delete about 800 of them. As for the comment that he would have raped her if he didn't respect her... so far off base! My son is raised to respect others. All my sons are. They were taught that No, actually means no! Not maybe if I push a little more I can convince you to do something you don't want to. Also, they know that a sexual relationship should be a mutual thing and that at this age even though half the teenage population is engaging in sex that (with this day and age of disease), that they should wait too. The point was being made that the trend here is that only girls seem to be the ones being hurt in a relationship and I was saying that "boys" can be too. Plus a relationship doesn't have to be about sex.
yophi
on 10/02/13
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I understand your point but have no problem with the terminology used. The reality is that females more frequently bear the consequences of unintended pregnancies, are more likely to receive STDs, and may garner a reputation (not fair, but reality) when engaging in such activities apart from a serious relationship. A man who doesn't push (observing limits and avoiding situations, not just encouraging) his girlfriend beyond what she is ready to do is respecting her. As parents of daughters, we appreciate parents who raise respectful gentlemen.
pbjplzmom
on 10/02/13
(...too much editing,) Yes, I will discourage him for a short time, but ultimately it's his decision.
ShaniM
on 10/02/13
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In adolescence, love takes on a life/death seriousness thanks to the nucleus accumbens and the dopamine reward system. It's quite literally an addiction and the symptoms they display are parallel to an addict in withdrawal. To you it's whoopla, but to them it's as real as can be. My science nerd contribution for the day.
loveyluvsu2
on 10/02/13
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All I can say is wow...
TentacleKisses
on 10/02/13
loveyluvsu2 liked this  
This is the exact reason I'm petrified of falling in love with someone. It's going to suck.
justmeocala
on 10/02/13
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The areas of the brain responsible for commitment and pleasure are connected - but do not fully develop in women until their late twenties and men in their thirties. In other words, we can't do it right until then. But good luck telling a teenager anything!
LsBrilliance77
on 10/02/13
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wow where did you read that, I think that is so true.
meisme123
on 10/02/13
it really depends on the individuals and their maturity level. not only speaking from a mature perspective but its very difficult to balance a relationship with the many things going on in a teenagers life. You have to priorities and relationships can be a distraction...

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